honest Q...my mind has just gone blank...

[ret5hd]

and i can’t even get close enough to properly search:

that word that describes when you believe one thing, you see evidence of a. contradictory thing, and you can’t make the two jibe so you just reject the new evidence because it’s easier

my brain keeps saying “dichotomy “ but that’s not it.

[The Blue Flower]

1. Cognitive dissonance

Is that what you're looking for? Then there's always gaslighting if someone is making you feel this way.

[ret5hd]

2. thank you! that's it.