Could anybody please send me some good vibes?

[LiberalEsto]

I'm hiding in my room.
My daughter is storming around the house and cursing at me.
My husband just gave me hell too.

My 25-year-old daughter got whiplash from a minor car accident yesterday. She called our doctor, but they couldn't see her and said to call the next morning. I ran out to buy her some arnica gel and tablets, massaged the gel into her neck, got her an ice pack, told her to take an ibuprofen to reduce inflammation, made her tea and gave her sympathy. I know she's in a lot of pain.

She woke up around 2 pm today and started blaming me for not waking her up at 9 am to call the doctor. I plain forgot.
I called the doctor, but they weren't answering, so i left a message about her pain and asked them to call back.
I also sent them an email and requested a referral for an x-ray. Nobody called or emailed back. (I suspect they are moving into their new office today)

Around 4, just when I was thinking of calling again, she started yelling at me that I was a @#$%%$# bitch because I didn't care about her and I should take her to the emergency room of the hospital. Remembering her previous tantrums at having to wait a long time in the ER, I offered to call insurance and get authorization for an urgent care center. She refused saying she wouldn't get in a car with me because I was a @#$%^&% bitch.

She called up Daddy at work and complained that I was being a bitch and refusing to take her to the ER or call the doctor, so he took the train home.

Meanwhile I called the insurance co. and they gave me the name of a local urgent care center. When my husband got home, I gave him the info, and he convinced our daughter to go there with him.
They just got back, and she started throwing fits because I hadn't made dinner for them -- I was too upset. When he called me from the clinic, I'd asked him to get something for themselves to eat because I wasn't up to cooking. But apparently he forgot.
So she cursed me some more, and then he started yelling at me that I screwed up by not calling the doctor's office over and over until I got hold of someone. And that he would call the doctor in the morning and demand that they see her and go sit there until they did.
Apparently the doctor at the urgent care clinic refused to prescribe a muscle relaxant for her, so they both took a fit over this, and of course it is all my fault. He left to get another prescription filled for her.

It isn't my fault that
1. she had an accident,
2. the doctor wouldn't see her yesterday,
3. she slept late and I completely forgot (I was in the middle of filing our taxes),
4. she throws tantrums if she has to wait a long time in an ER or doctor's office (anxiety disorder,)
5. she wouldn't let me take her to the clinic,
6. she called up Dave and demanded he take her to the ER, (I dissuaded him knowing it would be a long wait)
7. the urgent care clinic doctor wouldn't prescribe certain medications for her and
8. our doctor didn't return a call and an email today.
But they both think it is all my fault.
It is my fault that I didn't make dinner for them after being upset from being cursed and yelled at and told what an uncaring bitch I was, and a rotten parent, etc.

It's hell here.