Bereavement

slightlv

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9. I finished with my Mom's Medicaid summary

Sat May 23, 2026, 12:05 PM

May 23

a few months ago, and then got a "How did we do" survey from the National Cemetery where she was buried next to my Mom, along with a map to where their graves are located. I don't know why, but that one hit me the hardest. The Medicaid survey was the scariest, as they threatened all kinds of stuff if it wasn't filled out properly and correctly. But seeing the placement of the gravesite sent me into tears for a while. I still can't believe she's gone, and I'm having a hard time realizing I'm the eldest in the entire family now. The last few nights, I've felt Mom's absence almost like it's a physical thing. Life's been really hard lately, and I really just wanted to rest in her arms for a few minutes of feeling like "it's going to be okay." I don't think we ever outgrow the need for our Moms.

My condolences to you, Maeve. Feels like you've got this handled, even if it does tug the heart hard.

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Mom died March 1. Today, I got the Medicare summary [View all] Maeve May 23 OP

Deepest condolences, Maeve. SheltieLover May 23 #1

Stay strong, it's just so tough to deal with Walleye May 23 #2

This is for you malaise May 23 #3

I understand. my mom passed a few years back but I still feel a tug when riversedge May 23 #4

🫂 OGBuzz May 23 #5

All normal in a not normal setting. You get feelings you have never had before. My sisters were sad when twodogsbarking May 23 #6

so sorry for your loss. lostincalifornia May 23 #7

i am so sorry for the loss of your mom .... dawn5651 May 23 #8

I finished with my Mom's Medicaid summary slightlv May 23 #9

Oh, my. I think your mom is still with you. That is my plan, to always be with my children Joinfortmill Sunday #48

My condolences on the loss of your mom karynnj May 23 #10

Did you co-sign for her care on admission sheet tavernier May 23 #11

It's ok, she left a comfortable inheritance Maeve May 23 #13

She would have been 94 a month later--thank you all! Maeve May 23 #12

Nothing really more to add to all of the sweet sentiments. hamsterjill May 23 #14

Bless your heart, dear Maeve Grim Chieftain May 23 #15

Very sorry for your loss dlk May 23 #16

... alwaysinasnit May 23 #17

I am so sorry for your loss. stage left May 23 #18

I'm sorry, Maeve. Diamond_Dog May 23 #19

I am so sorry for your loss. That finality does hit hard. Stay strong. LoisB May 23 #20

The Republican Mantra popsdenver May 23 #21

That $1736 is probably the Medicare Part A deductible for 2026? Bengus81 May 23 #22

Yep, exactly. She had a supplemental plan, too Maeve May 23 #23

This illustrates how absurd our HC system is. The Medicare reimbursement ... Bluetus May 23 #29

Not going to get any argument from me Maeve May 23 #31

There was one year there were nothing but no-name (junk) companies on Obamacare in my county Bluetus May 23 #34

No apologies needed Maeve May 23 #36

Grief is hard cate94 May 23 #24

I'm so sorry for your loss, Maeve. EuterpeThelo May 23 #25

I am so sorry for your loss, Maeve MIButterfly May 23 #26

I'm very sorry for your loss. yardwork May 23 #27

I am so sorry Maeve irisblue May 23 #28

Deepest Condolences Deep State Witch May 23 #30

Glad to see you emerging from a long ordeal and coming out into the light BumRushDaShow May 23 #32

Thanks, a chara! Maeve May 23 #37

Went through this in 2022, Maeve TBF May 23 #33

Appreciate hearing the stories Maeve May 23 #38

You have my condolences IbogaProject May 23 #35

The bills have all been covered, thankfully Maeve May 23 #39

She probably wasn't worried about you two. Hope22 May 23 #42

We felt the same getting my mother's final bill. mgardener May 23 #40

My heart is with you. Hope22 May 23 #41

I'm so sorry, Maeve. Silver Gaia May 23 #43

I'm right there with you, Maeve... COL Mustard May 23 #44

I m so sorry. murielm99 Sunday #45

Brings it all back. Aussie105 Sunday #46

Hugs Joinfortmill Sunday #47

Take some of the love you had for her, love that feels like it has no place to go now, and spend that on yourself Attilatheblond Sunday #49

I'm so sorry to hear about this. Nothing prepares us. littlemissmartypants Sunday #50