Marrying Out of the Faith

[MADem]

10. Your daughter shouldn't be pushed--it's easy in, not so easy out.

Also, to convert with the "magic phrase" and not know the rules is not informed conversion. Some religious scholars would take issue with that.

There is no "conversion rule" in Islam, either, no matter what the Imam says. Most regard faith as being inherited through the father (part of why some political enemies of POTUS took such great pains to play the Muslim card w/Obama), but if a child isn't raised in the faith, they don't generally say "Too bad, you're an apostate" unless they're really out of the mainstream.

The in-laws can get pretty involved in the lives of newlyweds and the grandkids. I'd recommend the happy couple live far away from both sets of grandparents, talk on the phone often, skype often enough, and make those (not too long, but meaningful) visits count.

My family is chock-a-block full of interfaith marriages, and atheist/agnostic-religious unions. The trick is for the in-laws to stay the hell out of it. Everyone associated with the happy couple needs to learn how to just bite their tongue and live their own lives!

Easier said than done, I know....